I know for sure that men are the ones that look for a wife but it doesn’t mean single ladies don’t weigh options before saying, “I do”. Single ladies, for your information a man does not want to marry a liability but an asset. Hmmm, it sounds a bit harsh, isn’t it? Yet, it is glaring these days to see men who proposes to ladies with ambition and a high level conviction of being a helper. Now how do you get to know a good husband?
Matthew 19:5-6 says, “..For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate”.
First, you have to understand he is the person leaving his parents to look for you not you leaving your parents to look for him. He is the person searching, so you have to make sure you are found.
It is not every man that professes love that is genuinely ready to have you as a wife. Most of them are coming for sex and dump. Don’t be a dumping site.
It is good to have a handsome, rich, intelligent, God fearing man. Make sure those qualities are not just temporary flashes or camouflage.
When you are joined with him means having an agreement physically and spiritually. Never allow friends and family to decide for you who to marry. Never be desperate. Before you agree to be joined, go to God in prayer.
Men are made but husbands are created. You have to create your husband. Remember, there is no Mr right, what we have is Mr bachelor who is looking for a second mother. His biological mother gave him a motherly training. You need to give him wifely training.
Real men discusses real things, the ones with deception discusses unrealistic things. Let them not blow your mind by their excessive stories to lure you to oblivion. Real men take you for who you are and not what you are.
For you to get a good husband get ready to accommodate his weakness because you are a weaker vessel. Count his weaknesses and subtract them from his strengths and you will get the answers before you go down to the isle.
You must have what you do for a living, ambition or inspirations. If not, nothing will attract him. Your ways should be right before God and your lifestyle should be moderate and not questionable.
Husband materials are not by size, shape, eloquence, education or wealth. It is by his determination and focus on God and courage to achieve the impossible with you. Without it there is no hope in that relationship.
God does not give you a husband per say. He gives you a fatherly husband who takes charge of you. Any relationship that a man is autocratic is already a sign of marriage crisis. Don’t marry a man out of pity, it is a wrong motive.
Remember, to know his family background but never judge him by it. His background might be wrong but he is not. Try to put him to test sometimes but never tempt him. Ask him of his former relationships if there are any, you can learn from his stories. He is already looking for you.